Posts from — August 2009

Believing you can save your marriage is not your problem.

Believing you alone can save your marriage is your problem.

Look at what this woman made her cheating husband do to make amends for his misdeeds.  Do you think the punish fits the crime?

a.  Forcing your ex to do what’s right.

b.  Insisting that the judge do what’s fair.

c.  Committing to always doing what’s best for your children.

Don’t cry when the sun is gone, because the tears won’t let you see the stars.  — Violeta Parra

Then don’t get one.

That’s how you should respond when someone dares to question your decision to end your marriage.

Do you want to know how your child feels when you say mean things about their father or mother?

If so, try this exercise:

Ask your child to stand up on a chair.

Position yourself on your knees in front of them.

Ask them to pretend to be you.  Ask them to repeat aloud what they have heard you say about their mother or father.

Then listen carefully.

Really listen.

Then take a few minutes to process how it feels to hear what they have to say.

Life is short and your kids childhood is even shorter.  Don’t ruin it for them by saying nasty things about their father.  They didn’t pick him, you did.  

The fact that you now regret your decision is not their problem.  Unless of course you make it their problem.

This article offers some very helpful tips on anger management.  Check it out and let me know what you think.

Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them.  The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us.  ~Voltaire

I just found out that my husband never bothered to divorce his first wife before marrying me.  We are no longer living together.  Do I have to wait one year before I can file an annulment?

No.  Since your husband was still married when he married you, your marriage is void.  You can and should file for an annulment as soon as possible.